You are here: Home › Whats New › 2011 › 11 › 10 › Girlzone Betrayed

10th November 2011 by Esther Pinn

Have you ever been ditched by your friends? Have you been besties one day and then the next day they hate you?

If this is you then know you’re not alone.

Why is this happening to me?

This happens to everyone. While you may feel like you’re the only lonely person on the planet, everyone at some stage has been disappointed by a friendship.

Your friends change. Sometimes they become jealous of you or something’s going on personally at home.

Did you know that Jesus was rejected by many people? Jesus was rejected by two of his best mates. Read Matthew 26:14-16 and Matthew 26:69-75.

How do you think he would have felt? Let’s not forget he was human. He would have felt the same emotions as us.

If you feel like there is no one who could possibly understand, then give Jesus a try. He lived it. He knows how you feel and he can help you through it.

Should I confront them?

Honesty and open-communication are the keys to a long lasting friendship. It’s important to talk about the issue straight away. You only develop more anger and bitterness when you give more time for those emotions to grow.

If the friendship is worth saving, then take some God-given courage and confront them. It’s best to chose somewhere neutral – don’t meet at either their house or your own. Maybe talk about it at school during lunch in a quiet spot. Or how about going out for a coffee or milkshake after school?

Where to now?

If you have confronted them, or just decided that there is too much damage to fix, remember that it’s going to be OK.

God has it all worked out even if you don’t know what to do next.

Jeremiah 29:11 says: “’I know the plans I have for you’ says the Lord. ‘Plans to prosper you, not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future’.”

Take some time out to reflect about your ex-friends before they hurt you. Was she/he respectful of your opinions? Did you laugh lots together? Think about the characteristics you want in your future friends and how they will have a positive influence in your life.

Also it’s important to examine yourself. Recognise your flaws and have a chat with God about what you can do to improve!

How to make new friends

Sometimes it can feel like it’s too late. But you know what? It’s never too late in God’s eyes. Did you know God is constantly looking out for you?

“The eyes of the Lord search the whole earth in order to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him,” 2 Chronicles 16:9.

Look around your classroom. Are there people there you haven’t spoken to before? Have you judged someone too quickly? Start up a conversation. You never know where it might lead.

You could also sign up to a new dance class or sports club to meet new people. Also, church is great place to make friends. Even if you already have friends from church, there’s always someone new who you can befriend.

Comments

• Leave a comment
• Subscribe to comments

1. 

   Nate

   November 10, 2011 at 2:21pm

   The girl on the right is the BOSS!
   
   Great words Esther :)

   Reply
2. 

   Esther Pinn

   November 10, 2011 at 4:38pm

   Thanks Nate!

   Reply