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8th February 2010 by Yvette Clarke

December: Christmas, presents, family, good food.

January: New Years, summer heat, movies, swimming and good books.

February: The dreaded return to school and the month of love. You know what is just around the corner - Valentine's Day.

It's ok to be single!

Wanting to be loved, recognised, even just acknowledged is a desire that all girls have. But what happens when none of that's happening? This February, I have some single-girl survival tips for the 'month of love'.

Firstly, it's totally ok that you don't have a boyfriend. Just because it seems that everyone else in your class seems to have a boyfriend, it's ok that you don't. In fact, it's sometimes a good thing:

• It means you can spend heaps more time with your girlfriends: investing in life-time relationships, eating chocolate, watching girly movies and knowing they'll always be there!
• It's good to wait until you know who you truly are before you try and share yourself with someone else.
• And of course, if you've seen The Little Rascals, (a classic movie you should all watch!) you'll know they are in ‘he-man-woman-haters-clubs'.

Don't date because you're impatient

If you've been in a relationship before, you get to a place where you miss having someone hold your hand, fighting for you and loving you. If you have never been in a relationship before, you may be in a place where you wonder what it would be like to hold hands, kiss a boy, or just once be the girl someone loved.

Sticking to the policy of waiting for the right one, or until the (what you think is) stupid age your parents have said to wait for is, take it from me, a better option.

Make a pact with your girlfriends to wait - not for just a good guy, or a guy who'll be fun for now - but the right one.

• This can be fun: you can dream about what he might one day be like.
• Spend time praying for your future husband. How cool would it be to finally meet him and be able to say: "Did you know I've been praying for you for three / five / seven years?"

Which mirror are you using?

Don't hate me for knowing Harry Potter ... but in one of the movies there is a magic mirror that if you look at it, you see a reflection of what your heart most desires. However, the problem is that what you see isn't reality. In the real world, we only have normal mirrors - and girls, we all know that sometimes what we see can make us very depressed.

But Jesus, even though he's not a chick, totally understands girls and wrote a bunch of lovely stuff for us in the Bible.

• It's a book where we can find all the answers; including answers about our identity.
• It's a place that reveals the truth - the real truth.
• It's a great mirror to use and a great way to look at yourself.

Now I know that some verses in the Bible are clichéd verses that you hear all the time, but how about reading some of them and asking God to make them be like a mirror to you.

• Psalm 45:11
• Exodus 14:14
• 1 Peter 5:7
• Matthew 6:27-33
• Psalm 139:13-16

If you're alone and everyone around you is celebrating love, romance, hugs and kisses; it really sucks. But you can survive this. I believe that if you are patient, and choose the right reflection to look into, at the end of it - when you're ready - God will allow the knight in shining armour he chose for you to come and rescue you: the princess from the tower.

Let's be ladies in waiting together? Surviving love months, and all others. Love you girlies! xx

Yvette is the youth pastor of [UNLEASHED] Youth at the Gold Coast Salvos. Her favourite colour is green, she loves batman and is addicted to Scrubs.

Yvette goes to Bible college, loves to read books and is excited about what will happen in the future as this generation stands up as true soldiers of Jesus Christ.

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